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LifeSTAR

An outpatient treatment program designed for individuals, and their partners, affected by sexual addiction.

The LifeStar program is designed to provide addicts and their families with the tools and support to find hope, healing, and lasting recovery from sexual addiction and compulsive behaviors. Through individual and group therapy, addicts learn how to reclaim their lives, reestablish trust, and restore hope in their future. Effective and long-lasting recovery is more than temporarily stopping the behavior.  Effective therapy addresses the underlying issues in creating a permanent, long lasting recovery.

To accomplish this, the LifeStar program is divided into 3 levels of intensive group therapy.  We strongly suggest that participants also participate in individual and/or couples therapy.  Highly trained and licensed therapists lead each group and phase.  Workbooks, along with other materials and exercises, are used throughout the program and are included in the price.  

 
 
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Success Story

"I have tried to beat my sex addiction all my life. After trying, unsuccessfully, many times, I finally resigned myself to a life of misery. LifeSTAR provided a framework, tools, and an environment (group) to peel back the layers to find underlying faulty thinking that supported my addiction. Without it, I would still be just a shell of a man constructed on a pretense of who I wasn’t, but always wanted to be."

— Male Addict in Recovery

 
 

The Treatment Process

The program is divided into the following phases:

Phase I: Getting Started
Phase II: Recovery Groups
Phase III: Advanced Trauma Work

PHASE I: GETTING STARTED

What is this? - Phase 1 is the educational piece of the recovery process. This format is held in a classroom setting, to help both addicts and partners better understand the underlying causes of addiction. The basic structure is established for both individuals and couples for long-term, life-changing recovery. The primary focus of phase 1 is to educate.

When clients are well-informed about the underlying issues that influence unhealthy behaviors, they become empowered to take a more proactive approach to recovery and life.

Who Attends? - Both the addict and the spouse. Both will engage in the learning process together, then go to separate processing groups for the remainder of the time. We strongly recommend that dating/engaged/married couples come together so they can begin the process of education and healing together. However, the workshop is also for single adults and for those clients whose partners are not able or willing to attend. *

For how long? - 1.5 hours (45 min educational class, 45 min breakout session), once a week for 9 weeks.

What should I expect? - There is minimal participation needed in this part of the process. Expect to tell the group your first name, and participate/ask questions as you feel comfortable.

We know that this is an already difficult decision to participate in a group like this, and emotions will be close to the surface for most, yet deep and closely guarded by others. This is a safe environment to share your experience to begin on the road to a long-lasting recovery!

Prerequisites - All participants are screened and assessed by a trained and licensed LifeStar therapist before attending the program.


PHASE II: RECOVERY GROUPs

What is this? - Phase II shifts from an educational approach, to a “working recovery” approach. This is where participants build close connections and relationships to one another for long-term support and recovery. In gender-specific small groups (ranging from 3 to 10 people), participants will complete tasks and assignments, and hold one another accountable. These tools and principles lay the groundwork required for lasting recovery. The workbooks in Phase II focus on providing a deeper look at denial, the addiction cycle, fantasies and objectification, relapse prevention, and healthy living. Participants should stay in Phase II until they have established a solid sobriety, are implementing an effective treatment plan – including a network of support – and have a detailed understanding of their addictive system.

Partners in Phase II take a deep look at their own emotional issues, identify triggers to create safety plans, establish healthy boundaries, and learn to recognize co-dependent behaviors.

Who Attends? - Both the addict and the partner – but are in separate processing groups. *

For how long? - Approximately 6-12 months, once per week, 90 minutes long.

What should I expect? - Deeper, and more personal work is done in this phase for all participants. The addicts get to the root of their addiction, become accountable for their actions and sobriety, and form a close-knit support group with the other group members in order to practice new methods of healthy communication. The partners focus on deep recovery work from the trauma they have experienced. This safe environment and group support is vital as they support one another through recovery.

Prerequisites - Participants are required to attend and complete Phase I before participating in Phase II.


PHASE III: ADVANCED TRAUMA WORK

What is this? - The addicts in the third phase of treatment have demonstrated a solid sobriety from the sexual acting out behaviors and are ready to do the more delicate work of healing shame, attachment, and other emotional issues that the addiction covered up. Once the underlying issues have been addressed, healthy lifestyle changes are reinforced in order to keep the addiction from reappearing in the future. Men also learn how to improve their relationships with their wives, children, extended family, co-workers, and friends.

Most partners have moved past the crisis of betrayal in Phase III and are now able to work on healthy emotional expression, healing trauma, decreasing shame, and improving their most important relationships. Women in the third phase re-discover their best selves and build patterns for long-term healthy living.

For both men and women, Phase III is a chance to practice living life without the constant threat of the addiction and helps each of them secure the gains from the two previous phases.

Who Attends? - Both the addict and the partner – but are in separate processing groups. *

For how long? - Approximately 6-12 months, once per week, 90 minutes long.

What should I expect? - Phase III addresses the issues that underlined the addiction in the first place, such as faulty core beliefs, trauma, and abuse. Once the addiction has been stopped and the underlying issues have been addressed, healthy lifestyle changes are reinforced in order to keep the addiction from reappearing. For partners in the program, this is when deeper trauma is explored since self-care methods have been established.

Prerequisites - Participants are required to attend and complete Phases I and II before participating in Phase III activities.


Various LifeStar staff members and interns may participate from time to time for training purposes, but are held to strict confidentiality guidelines.